*cue LMFAO’s Sexy And I Know It song*
Joking aside, I’ve got a pet peeve that I want to share…and that is seeing people who don’t smile when they dance.
Don’t get me wrong, there are certainly some dances that require some form of control style intensity in your facial expression, such as the Tango and the Paso Doble. Or maybe you’re having a rather bad experience with somebody who is making you feel uncomfortable. But those are exceptions rather than the norm.
Think of it this way: would you rather approach a grumpy person or one who is all smiles? Or maybe you’re dancing together and see that your partner of the moment’s facial expression looks glazed as if they’d much rather be somewhere else.
I’m sure you get the picture.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not asking anybody to smile like a Cheshire cat at all times, that would be on the other extreme.
But…what does this have to do with my dancing?
We’re not talking about your skills as a dancer here. You might have all the cool moves or you might be a complete beginner, but all that is not going to amount to much if you don’t smile.
Point 1: Initial contact
Before you even hit the dance floor, you’re already judged by everyone else the moment you make your appearance in the room. This is especially the case when you walk in and nobody knows you. At this point, your dance skills don’t matter, it is your approachability.
Again, I emphasize that you do not need to smile like a Cheshire cat. Merely a small polite smile to acknowledge whoever’s eye you caught is suffice to let them know that you may be interested in dancing with them later.
Point 2: Greetings
At this point, you might have caught somebody’s eye, or vice-versa. Usually, by this moment, if you approach somebody or if somebody approaches you, the message is clear: you’re interested in dancing with each other for the next dance. There is nothing more welcoming than a simple smile that says “Yes, I would like to dance with you for this song.”
Point 3: I’m having fun! (or at least look like it!)
This is the point where I’ve seen some people look absolutely terrible…and possibly see a few people go downhill. Not because they have bad dance moves, but because they look like they have tasted sour lemons when they dance! From afar, not only does this look un-sexy, it sends the message that you’re absolutely hating the moment.
Now, again, I am well aware that there may be exceptions to this rule. It is possible that the person you’re dancing with at the moment is giving you the creeps (or something along those lines). But for now, let’s focus more on the normal circumstances.
Dancing is one of the best pleasures of life, meant to be enjoyed as it is. In the world of social dancing, you’re there to not just enjoy yourself, but to also share this joy of dancing with the person you’re dancing with.
I’ve danced with possibly over 200 people by now in the last few years, and out of personal experience, some of the dances I’ve enjoyed the most are with people who are smiling at me. When I see this, it creates a desire to want to dance with that person again in the future.
It really doesn’t matter of you are a beginner or a veteran, your approachability is your top priority in any situation, and your smile is the one thing that will help you immensely.
So go and smile with confidence, because you’re sexy and you know it!